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Stoicism is an ancient philosophy that teaches how to live a virtuous, rational, and calm life even in the face of challenges and hardships.  

Stoic men are not emotionless or cold, but rather they are in control of their emotions and actions.  

The principals of a stoic man dictate that he should try to be strong in the face of adversity.  

Stoic men are selfless and humble, trying to let their actions speak instead of words.  

Many of the qualities of a stoic man are attractive to women because they hit on many fundamental attraction points that women subconsciously seek in a man.  

Stoic qualities show that a man has the potential to be a good provider and protector as well as the strength it takes to lead a family. 

Here are 15 reasons why women love stoic men.  

1. Stoic men are confident and self-reliant.   

Stoic men have a high sense of self-worth and self-respect.  

Because of that, they don’t need external validation or approval from others, especially from women.  

Instead, they tend to focus on building themselves and their relationships up into something better. 

Women are innately attracted to confidence. In fact, it is consistently listed by women as the number 1 most attractive thing in a man. 

They are confident in their abilities and skills, and they don’t let fear or doubt stop them from pursuing their goals.  

Stoic men don’t depend on others for their happiness or well-being. When a woman sees a man who is at home in his masculine frame, she sees someone who she won’t be playing mommy to or taking care of. 

Instead, she sees a partner to take on life and build something more. 

2. Stoic men are honest and loyal.   

Did you know studies have shown direct links between our relationship trust levels and our happiness and satisfaction?

Stoic men value honesty and integrity as core virtues in themselves. 

As a matter of principal, they don’t lie, cheat, or deceive others, especially their partners.  

In relationships, stoic men are loyal and faithful to their partners as well as those they care about. 

A stoic masculine man views his commitments and promises as something to be upheld. 

They don’t play games or send mixed signals with women, instead they will be upfront and let her know exactly how he is feeling. 

They are straightforward and sincere with their words and actions which builds that sense of dependability and being a provider when a woman looks at a stoic man. 

The loyalty and honesty of a stoic man build him up as a good potential life partner. 

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3. They are respectful and courteous.  

Stoic men treat everyone with the respect and dignity they have earned, regardless of their status or background.  

When it comes to interactions with women, they are polite and courteous, without being needy or creepy.  

They don’t objectify or harass women, instead they appreciate and admire them as human beings.  

If you’ve cat called a girl, you’re no stoic man. A stoic would have gotten out to start a genuine conversation or let her be on with her own business. 

For a stoic man, his will and control over himself are very important. 

Rather than imposing their will onto women, a stoic man will pursue his goals regardless and if that means letting a woman go, he will. 

A man who is in a stoic frame of mind will also not tolerate disrespect or ill treatment from a woman. Instead, he will cut her off as a choice for a relationship. 

This mentality of not playing games lets women know exactly where he stands and what his boundaries are which builds respect from her. 

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4. Stoic men keep calm and composed.  

One of the main tenants of being a stoic man is to have a high level of emotional intelligence and self-control.  

Unlike popular opinion they aren’t cold or unemotional but know how to control and express their emotions in a way that makes the most positive effect.

They don’t let their emotions get the best of them or cloud their judgment, especially during trying times. 

When a man who is in a stoic frame comes against obstacles in his life he doesn’t give up or explode in anger. 

Instead of overreacting he will step back and evaluate what needs to be done. 

When it comes to women, they see this as a sign of true leadership, of someone who will be able to handle the problems that come against a family and overcome them.  

When problems do arise, they don’t complain or whine about their circumstances, instead they build a plan to push through to somewhere better. 

A stoic man handles stress and pressure with grace and poise.  

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5. Stoic men seek to be wise and rational. 

Stoic men have a high level of intellectual curiosity and critical thinking.  

They don’t blindly follow the crowd or trends. They form their own opinions based on facts and logic. 

Because of these virtues, stoic men are in a constant state of building wisdom.  

They look at how the things in their lives as well as others’ and use those experiences to build a foundation so that when a new issue comes, they will be able to make a real plan to not only get over that issue but end somewhere better than they were when it first came up. 

When it comes to other people, stoic men seek to try and understand others’ perspectives before coming to a judgment.  

This helps them in relations with women because it shows the woman that he is emotionally intelligent and open to her feelings. 

And stoic men don’t fall for fallacies or biases, they question everything and seek the truth even if that truth hurts. 

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6. Stoic men are courageous and determined 

Stoic men have high levels of persistence and the courage it takes to overcome life’s obstacles whether they are in his job or relationships.  

A stoic man doesn’t let fear stop him, and that includes letting a woman he is interested in, know about it.  

Women consistently rate confidence as the most attractive trait a man can have and when stoic men are up front with a woman, it builds that attraction. 

Part of being courageous is knowing a man in his masculine energy and stoic mindset will do what is right. 

Being righteous and doing what’s right is a huge deal for women because it shows character. And that character she can see as a provider, a loyal partner and good potential father. 

When external challenges come up, a stoic man doesn’t let them push him into anger or submission, he does what is right and needed for those he cares about. 

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7. Women love that stoic men are compassionate.  

Stoic men are generous and kindhearted.  

They don’t hoard their resources or talents, instead they use them to advance themselves and others they care for.  

Part of their compassion towards others shows their protective and generous nature, which is also an attraction trait for women looking for a relationship. 

In relationships, stoic men care for and are supportive of their lovers. They pay attention to her feelings and don’t neglect their partner’s needs  

They treat others as they expect to be treated themselves. 

8. Stoic men are humble and grateful.  

Two of the core tenants of stoicism are humility and gratitude. A stoic man realizes that humility opens the door to others’ hearts and gratitude opens your heart. 

Gratitude is an essential trait in a partner and a happy and healthy relationship.

They don’t boast or brag about their achievements or possessions.  

Rather they acknowledge their limitations and flaws and in doing so start on the path to overcoming them.  

They don’t take anything for granted, especially those people in their lives. In their relationships with women, they appreciate everything they have and receive.  

Part of practicing humility and grace is not being envious of others, which is very attractive. Jealousy towards what other people have directly ties into a woman seeing a man as jealous in a relationship. 

Instead of envy, stoic men celebrate their successes and learn from their failures.

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9. Women can see a stoic man is disciplined and responsible.  

One of the key things that makes stoic men so attractive to women is their discipline and accountability. 

Women can see a man with self-discipline as someone who isn’t going to be chasing shiny things while driving their family into crisis.  

They see a man’s accountability as a sign of his future actions in a family.  

Stoic men practice controlling their own vices, not becoming addicted to things like drugs or adult content.   

They don’t procrastinate or waste time, they manage their time and energy efficiently which shows a woman their ability to provide in the future.  

10. Stoic men are loyal and faithful.  

Loyalty and faithfulness are core building blocks of a healthy relationship. If a woman feels she can’t fully trust a man, she can never fully commit to him. 

A stoic’s sense of loyalty is innately attractive because she can see a partner who will be devoted to their relationship instead of looking for the next best thing. 

They don’t cheat or betray their partners, instead a woman can rely on a stoic man for love and support.  

They cherish and admire their partners and don’t flirt or cheat as a matter of principle.  

Once a stoic minded man sets his mind to something or gives his commitment, it is solid. He doesn’t break that and will back up his words with action. 

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11. Stoic men are adventurous and passionate.  

Women love a man with enthusiasm for life and a part of that enthusiasm comes from being curious.  

Men who have that sense of curiosity and wonder are the explorers, they are the ones going on vacations, hiking into the forests and kayaking rivers. 

Adventure is attractive. It paints a picture in a woman’s head about the kind of lifestyle she can have with him. 

Stoic men never settle for mediocrity or boredom, and that includes when they are in a relationship. They thrive in seeking new experiences and challenges.  

They don’t shy away from risks or opportunities, instead they embrace and learn from them. 

A stoic man may be highly disciplined, but he is driven by his passions and desires. 

That pursuit of what he wants is something a woman can see, and in a relationship, women love being pursued.  

12. Stoic men are creative and original.  

Stoic men are never settling with themselves, they are innovators in every aspect of their lives. 

Part of this is using their imagination. 

Instead of conforming to some day-to-day trends, they create their own paths, in life, in their work, and in relationships.  

Dating a stoic man is unlike anything most women have experienced because a man in his stoic and masculine frame will take control of planning experiences.  

Date night isn’t going to be the 50^th time at the same restaurant, instead they’re going paddling, axe throwing, doing something to bond over. 

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13. Stoic men are spiritual and philosophical.  

Part of embracing stoic ideas is a man working to build his awareness and insight. 

He won’t ignore or deny the deeper aspects of life because exploring and understanding them are at the heart of stoic philosophy. 

Stoic men seek to understand the purpose of things like life and love on a deeper lever, giving their partners more than just a face value relationship. 

Men who are seeking a stoic path live in the essence of the world and of their own souls, they understand that beyond the material, what really matters are the deeper things in life and in a relationship. 

14. Stoic men are leaders and mentors.  

Men that are practicing stoicism are looked to as natural leaders because of many of the traits in this article. 

They don’t depend on others to get things done but instead lead and inspire others with their own actions. 

Instead of seeking to manipulate or coerce a woman in a relationship, a stoic man collaborates and cooperates with her, building something more and deeper. 

While a stoic man is seen as very dominant, he never seeks to dominate others, he empowers them and empowers his woman to be a better version of herself.

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15. They are lovers and protectors.  

In relationships stoic men are very affectionate and show their devotion to their woman. 

They don’t objectify women or put them up on some pedestal as a prize but see her as a partner and someone to uphold and support. 

Stoic men never abandon their relationships, even when one must end, they hold responsibility for that relationship and that woman. 

They care for and are protective of their lovers, wanting to build them up alongside themselves. 

Embrace your manhood, embrace your inner stoic. 

Stoic men aren’t perfect or flawless, but they do hold many traits that women find desirable in a man. 

Stoic men cultivate a strength in themselves and their mindsets that is attractive because it shows the kind of man he will be in a relationship. 

Those strengths and ideals and principals all build in her eye a picture of a man who is going places in life. 

Who isn’t going to settle for mediocrity, and who can build a life with her that is one of love and happiness.