Embrace your femininity and find your future husband.

When a man is in a relationship, there are feminine qualities that signal a woman would be a good wife. 

These can often be a lot different than what many women would think makes a good girlfriend. 

When it comes to finding the woman we want to spend our lives with, we are looking for a woman that brings us peace in a profound way. 

We’re looking for a woman who is supportive yet free-spirited, nurturing yet confident, who is honest and empathetic. 

Below I’ve put together 15 of the most essential feminine qualities men look for in a potential wife.

1. Our potential wife is family oriented 

Men love a woman who is family oriented. 

I’m not talking about having a big family or wanting kids but something deeper. 

When we see a woman who gives herself to and values those in her family, regardless of how she defines them, it’s a huge turn on because it shows us her feminine heart. 

It signals to men that she has a caring spirit and nurturing nature. 

In fact a Pew Research study showed 90% of men rate a woman’s potential to be a good mother as a driving factor when looking at a potential wife.

Now we’ve all been given different family scenarios and I don’t want you to compare your family dynamics with being family oriented. 

But what’s important is her trying to maintain good relationships and being there for those in her life. 

It’s showing her loyalty and support to her loved ones. 

2. We want our wife to be charming and ladylike 

A woman that’s wife material will be positive towards other people. 

And that natural charisma makes her fun and comfortable to be around.  

Charming doesn’t mean she flirts with others or tries to impress, but instead is genuinely upbeat and positive in her general outlook. 

When we are with a woman who is friendly and sociable, it makes it easier to have fun around her.  

It also makes others feel comfortable around her because of her positive and effeminate energy. 

3. Kindhearted is a wife trait men search for 

There is nothing that shows femininity like a woman being kindhearted and compassionate. 

That softness of her spirit, that empathetic generosity is more than just a positive quality or a green flag. 

It’s a signal deep into how a woman will be as a permanent partner, because a woman who cares for others is showing her feminine and nurturing nature. 

A kindhearted woman makes the world around her better and her man better as well. 

She reserves judgement and shows empathy and understanding and respect for others. 

By being kind and respectful she shows how she will be as a partner in life. 

Men feed off respect and when we receive it from our women it is like fuel for our souls. 

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4. A man wants a wife who’s intellectually challenging 

Notice I didn’t say a wife who’s challenging, or a wife who’s intellectual. 

We don’t need you to be a rocket scientist, we want you to engage us. 

A woman who is intellectually challenging is someone who can listen and engage with us in a real conversation. 

It doesn’t matter if you know the subject or not, what matters is the energy she gives him. 

Does she just let him talk until she can move on or does she dig deeper into his interests? 

We also want a woman who can challenge herself and continuously grow as a person. 

A woman who can look at herself and challenge how she is in order to grow, is extremely attractive because it shows she isn’t stuck in her own mental ruts. 

5. Men want a wife who’s ambitious in the relationship 

Men want a woman with ambition, but we do not want a boss lady or bad B type. 

As a man I don’t really care at all about what my lady does for work. 

That’s just not a thing men care about and it’s not an attraction factor for us.  

I could care less if my wife is a 6-figure professional or a barista, because I will provide regardless. 

For men ambition is how she puts herself into the relationship. 

Does she contribute to the relationship, does she contribute to our goals as a couple and to us growing as a couple. 

Does she give herself to us and to our relationship? 

Or does she sit back and wait for everything to be planned out or decided for her? 

6. Men want a wife who’s consistent 

Trust is paramount to men in a relationship and one way a woman can build that trust is through consistency. 

The last thing we want from a woman we are looking at building a life with is to play games or send mixed signals. 

We want a woman who is open, honest and faithful more than anything else. 

And by being consistent, a woman shows us that she is stable and predictable in a good way. 

Inconsistency shows men that she doesn’t truly care for him. 

It shows that their relationship isn’t her priority and thus her loyalty to him isn’t a priority. 

Related: 13 ways to get your man to start communicating

7. Men want a wife who’s caring and compassionate 

Empathy and compassion are powerful feminine traits. 

They’re traits that come from caring and emotional intelligence and it’s very attractive to men. 

This is at the heart of why we have seen tropes like the sexy nurses and caretakers. 

Men want a woman who can understand or at least try to understand where he is coming from and the things he is dealing with and the science agrees.

A recent study from Pew Research found that 90% of men rated compassion as an essential trait they look for in a potential partner.

We don’t want her to burden herself with our issues, but we want her support.  

We want her to empathize with us and show us that she cares about us.  

In disagreements, it’s easy for either side to get defensive. 

If a man doesn’t feel like he is being listened to, he shuts down and stops expressing his feelings. 

But when he feels like his partner is trying to see his point of view, even if she disagrees, he can still see the relationship as a safe place where his emotions are respected. 

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8. Men want a woman who puts in effort  

One of the most powerful things for a man in a relationship is having a woman who he knows wants to be with him and puts in effort to make the relationship work. 

This is the kind of woman who likely won’t run out on him when the road get rough. 

By being willing to put work into your relationship and into yourself and into your man, you are showing him that he and your life together are something you take care in and want to see grow. 

He wants a woman who is willing to try new things, learn new skills, and adapt to new situations.  

He wants a woman who is willing to show him love and appreciation in different ways. 

It’s not about sex or making the relationship transactional, instead it’s about the little things like a random hug and saying “I love you for x reason.” 

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9. Men want a wife who’s attractive to him 

Men want a woman who is attractive to him and it’s not necessarily about keeping your body from you had at 23. 

A man wants a woman who is attractive to him to his core, who he looks at with longing over how she cares for herself, her lifestyle, her personality. 

Relationships are work and a lot of it is continuing to look at ourselves and grow as a person while putting in the work to keep the relationship alive. 

Its easy to let a relationship stagnate and go cold, to keep that fire burning takes both trying to keep the other attracted. 

My wife and I still make a point to date each other and to keep that fire alive. 

And she still does little things throughout the week to let me know she’s thinking of me and to keep me thinking of her. 

It may be something as small as a note somewhere or getting home to homemade cookies(my personal love weakness) cooling.  

It doesn’t matter what, what’s important is that she did it and it keeps me attracted to her. 

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10. Men want a woman who’s friendly with his family and social circle 

Men want a woman to become a part of their lives.  

We want to build a life together and that means trying to become a real part of your life and social circle and you trying to be a part of his. 

And a huge part of this is being friendly with his family and social circle. 

We don’t expect or want you to become good buddies with our friends, but more of an understanding that he will have a need for that companionship. 

The easiest way to do this is to simply try and make people in his circle feel welcome, and by the way he should be doing this too. 

But it feels great when we know our friends or family approve of our choice of a partner. 

Their approval shouldn’t be some sort of deciding factor, but try to think of it in the sense that their approval can be a sort of fuel that boosts you to a new level. 

11. Men need a wife who shares his want for kids, or not 

Having children is one of the greatest decisions a couple will make. 

And it’s one that needs to be addressed long before the relationship gets to a marriage potential. 

An amazing older lady I know was in her fifties when she finally discovered why her husband couldn’t have kids. 

When she had started talking of kids he got scared and had a vasectomy and instead told her he had health issues making them unable to get pregnant. 

He took from her the one thing she wanted most in her life and it was because they never truly discussed each of their wants honestly before. 

And when the topic finally was discussed his cowardice took over. 

Most of us want to build a wonderful family with you. 

And even though most situations would never get to the extreme of my story here. 

If that’s what you want, you must know how your man feels to avoid it becoming a point of contention in your relationship. 

12. A man wants a woman that shows gratitude 

One of the greatest feelings I get as a man in a relationship is when my wife does little things for no other reason than her loving me and showing her gratitude for me. 

This might be something as simple as a random kiss or note, or baking cookies. 

A woman who can compliment her man makes him feel loved. 

A woman that can remember his likes and dislikes and uses those to show her love refills his heart and makes him feel truly appreciated as a man. 

And studies in the Journal for Social Cognitive & Affective Neuroscience agree that gratitude is essential in developing a strong and lasting relationship because of the real neurological effects it has on us.

Little things like this add up to her radiating love and warmth into their relationship. 

13. Men want a woman who’s confident, but not a boss babe 

No man wants their woman to keep their head down or be some kind of pushover. 

We want a confident woman who can stand on her own. 

A woman who doesn’t need constant validation and is secure in herself is the kind of woman who can stay loyal in a man’s eyes.  

Who has the strength to turn down the advances of other men. 

A woman who is secure in herself will be much more secure in her relationship which will keep things like jealousy from building. 

While we want a confident woman, very few men I’ve ever met want a boss babe or a woman with that sort of hard, coarse attitude. 

In fact research from Harvard shows that men are attracted to women who are less career ambitious than they are and once the woman’s level of ambition matches his, attraction drops.

The boss babe mentality come across as aggressive, masculine and controlling to us. 

Instead we want the classical feminine confidence. 

14. Men want a woman with a sense of adventure 

We want our woman to compliment and help spice up our lives. 

For a man, a woman can make any experience more exciting because of the different dynamic she brings to each one. 

A woman who’s not afraid to try new things is someone we can have real fun with. 

Every dating profile list travel as a hobby, but as someone who travels a lot, there’s nothing more fun than taking my wife to some new culture and experiencing it with her. 

It turns a stop at a tourist trap into a memory that adds to and builds up your relationship. 

Part of this is learning to enjoy the moment. 

A woman who can let go and just have fun will help her man be able to do the same. 

My wife doesn’t hold me back from having adventures, she helps encourage and make them possible. 

15. Every man wants a respectful wife 

Respect is fuel to men. 

It is something almost sacred because it is something that is earned between us. 

When a man feels the respect of his woman it builds him up like nothing else. 

We want to feel appreciated and honored by our wives, not mocked or belittled. 

By showing him respect you are building him up as a man. 

You are refilling his heart with love and building him up as his woman. 

Perhaps the worst thing a woman can do to a man aside from infidelity is to disrespect him in front of others. 

This cuts especially deep because for every person there to witness it, the disrespect cuts deeper. 

It is taken almost as a personal attack against his character and hurts the love he has for her. 

Men want a wife that completes and compliments them 

These are the 15 most essential feminine qualities men look for in a wife.

By cultivating these qualities, you will not only attract more men into your life, but also improve your self-esteem, happiness and success in your future relationships.

So, start working on these qualities today and see the difference they can make in finding the man of your dreams.