Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation where one person makes another doubt their own reality. If you think your partner is gaslighting you, it’s important to recognize the signs and take steps to protect yourself. Here’s what you can do if you find yourself in this situation. 

Recognize the Signs of Gaslighting 

Gaslighting can be subtle and hard to detect at first. Here are some common signs: 

1. Denial: Your partner denies things they said or did, even when you have proof. Now remember this goes beyond a simply one off thing. It’s when denial becomes a pattern in the relationship.

2. Blame Shifting: They blame you for things that aren’t your fault, making you feel guilty. The truth is eventually an issue will be your fault and you will be the bad one, but not every situation, and not every time.

3. Isolation: They try to isolate you from friends and family, making you more dependent on them. 

4. Undermining: They make negative comments about your abilities and worth, undermining your confidence. 

Trust Your Instincts 

If something feels off, trust your gut. Your feelings are valid, and it’s important to listen to them. Gaslighting can make you doubt yourself, but trusting your instincts is the first step to regaining control. 

If you are feeling like your man or your woman hurt you, chances are, they did. Tell them and make sure they know about how you feel.

Document Everything 

Keep a record of conversations and events. Write down what was said and when it happened. This can help you see patterns and have proof of what’s happening. Documentation can be crucial if you need to seek help or take legal action. 

Seek Support From Others

Talk to friends, family, or a therapist. They can provide perspective and support. Sometimes, just talking about what’s happening can help you see things more clearly. A therapist can also help you develop strategies to cope with the gaslighting. 

Set Boundaries With Them

Establish clear boundaries with your partner. Let them know what behavior is unacceptable. Be firm and consistent with your boundaries. This can help protect you from further manipulation. 

Practice Self-Care 

Taking care of yourself is essential. Make time for activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good. This can help you stay grounded and maintain your sense of self-worth. Self-care can also reduce stress and improve your overall well-being. 

Consider Leaving 

You don’t deserve to stay with someone that hurts or controls you.

And you don’t need to.

If the gaslighting continues and your partner refuses to change, it might be best to leave the relationship. Your mental health and well-being are important, and staying in a toxic relationship can have long-term negative effects. Leaving can be difficult, but it might be the best option for your happiness and safety. 

Recognize and deal with gaslighting before it gets out of hand

Gaslighting is a serious form of emotional abuse that can have lasting effects on your mental health. Recognizing the signs and taking steps to protect yourself is crucial.

Trust your instincts, document everything, seek support, set boundaries, practice self-care, and consider leaving if necessary. Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel valued and respected. 

David N. Brace

David N. Brace is a relationship expert that lives what he preaches having built a 20-year happy marriage. Relationships take work and effort but if we are willing to do so and to keep growing as individuals, we can build something amazing that lasts a lifetime.

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