High-value men look for certain things in a woman, here’s what they want.

Average men are a dime a dozen, you want a high-value man, a man who will be a good partner, provider, protector, husband and potential father.

Attracting a man is no big deal for the average woman. 

Open a dating app and she can have dozens of thirsty men overwhelming her DM’s. 

But how many of these kinds of guys are even worth dating in the first place and how many of those that are worth dating, are only after one thing. 

But attracting a high value man, a man who is of the cream of the crop, successful, and ready to be a great partner for a relationship is a different task. 

With the overwhelming options women have they must be very cautious about the men they choose to date and get involved with. 

Here’s how you can bypass all the losers and players to find the real high value man of your dreams.  

And once you do, these tips will help him see you as The One. 

1. Handle your dramas and traumas 

A high value man wants a woman who can handle her own issues and not be relying on him to become some sort of white knight looking to fix them. 

He wants a woman who is open enough to express and communicate her feelings and things she is going through without emotional dumping onto him. 

By being open and honest he can help her see a path through and with him, work through them. 

Also, a high value man looks for a woman who is free of relationship traumas.  
This can mean doing the hard work to look at yourself and the ways you have contributed to past relationship failures. 

In doing so we build maturity and accountability and in a relationship that translates to a better ability to take on issues without building resentments.

In fact, research has shown significant correlations between past relationship traumas and the impacts on our future relationships and love life. 

2. Be clear and honest about what you want in a relationship 

A high-value man wants a woman who knows what she wants from life an a relationship and is not afraid to put in effort to pursue it. 

And that includes pursuing him. 

He wants a woman who can communicate her needs and desires. 

And when he hears those desires, he will want to help achieve them with her. 

Part of building a relationship that grows into something real is being honest with what you want. 

A high-value man appreciates this honesty and maturity in a woman and it helps him to see she is serious about building a real relationship. 

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3. Know your worth and where it comes from 

A high-value man wants a woman who knows her worth as a feminine woman. 

Her sense of self should come from her and not those around her.  

Her femininity is like her superpower that she brings to him and is the thing that will drive him to pursue her. 

And studies agree that a woman’s femininity is the most attractive part of her when it comes to building lasting relationships.

A woman who knows her worth as a feminine, nurturing and supportive woman holds herself to a higher standard and men see that. 

High-value men want a woman who doesn’t seek validation and attention from other men but instead gets that from him and her own life successes. 

4. Have a clear direction for your life as a woman 

A high-value man wants a woman who will be a compliment to his lifestyle and his goals. 

That means he has to know and understand her goals and dreams as well. 

He needs to know if she is looking for the same things as him in a relationship. 

If you are looking for a serious relationship that leads to a marriage, he needs to know that you are looking to be a mother and wife. 

By seeing your goals as a partner he can look into the future to what kind of life you two would have together. 

If your dream goal is to have a good husband and stay at home supporting him and being an amazing mother, he needs to know. 

And when he learns that about you he will be infinitely more attracted because he will be able to envision that life with you. 

Just remember, when men are looking at a woman’s life direction when it comes to attraction, they look for different things than men.

Research on gender differences in mate selection has shown men look for qualities that signal physical and emotional attractiveness and not things like career ambition.

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5. Be authentic and be yourself 

A high-value man wants a woman who is true to herself and what she wants in life. 

He isn’t necessarily concerned with where she is heading career wise but wants to know what she wants from life.  

He wants to know what kind of wife she wants to be and if she wants to be a mother and if so, what kind. 

When a high-value man sees a woman he can begin to see as a potential wife and mother to his children, he begins to look at his future with her and the future life he can build together with her. 

And a 2019 research study also showed that when it comes to dating and mate selection, authenticity seems to be our best approach.

A high-value man wants a woman who is comfortable in her own femininity and in herself as a woman. 

He wants a woman who can be that supportive and loving woman to bring a balance to his life. 

6. High-value men want a woman who is emotionally intelligent 

Did you know that researchers have found that people with a higher level of emotional intelligence report more satisfying and happier romantic relationships?

A high-value man isn’t going to wade through an emotional mess of a relationship when he has plenty of options available to him. 

High-value men want women who are aware of their emotions and can communicate and express them effectively. 

And this isn’t always the bad. 

We want to feel your love for us, we want to feel your support and your feminine drive to nurture. 

Also, just like how high-quality women want a man who is open and understanding to their emotions, thoughts and feelings.  

A high-value man wants a woman who is emotionally reciprocal.  

He wants her to be empathetic to his emotions and when he sees that empathy in her, he can see her feminine spirit at work. 

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7. High-value men are resilient and want their women to be also 

Now first there is a huge difference in the kind of resiliency I am talking about between men and women. 

Society often display resiliency as the masculine idea of pushing through any obstacle and overcoming any odds. 

Men, and especially a high-value man, doesn’t want a woman who comes across as masculine and the kind of resiliency he is looking for is different. 

He wants a woman to be emotionally resilient. 

He wants her to be over her traumas of past relationships and more importantly, able to handle the emotional situations that arise in relationships. 

This looks more like being open and empathetic instead of judgmental or prideful in disagreements.  

It’s having the fortitude to be soft and supportive. 

It’s having the emotional strength to be nurturing and have a giving heart. 

8. High-value men want a woman who values personal growth in herself 

Men get attracted to the kind of women who are continuously looking to better themselves as women. 

There’s something about femininity in a woman that drives us into attraction.

By seeking to become more feminine, by doubling down on those nurturing and caring qualities he is looking for in a partner to start a family, she embodies those attractive features to him. 

Part of this is being open to learning and experiencing new things. 

These new things you experience with him are considered new firsts and help to build the foundations of a deep relationship. 

And by continuously seeking to grow as a woman you are always bettering yourself and becoming better in the eyes of a man. 

A simple 1% change each week adds up to an entirely different mindset over a year. 

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9. High-value men love women that radiate positivity 

People with a positive outlook on life are more attractive than pessimists. 

That shouldn’t be some kind of surprise to anyone. 

For men looking at the possibility of starting a relationship with a woman, her personality is what matters most and that’s backed by science, not her looks, athleticism, career or anything else.

But for men, how a woman looks at and interacts with the world is a huge attraction factor. 

This is because it allows a man to see deeper into her spirit and to the kind of woman she really is at her core. 

For a man, a kindhearted and positive woman brings us a profound sense of peace. 

It’s easy and fun for a man to be around a positive woman.  

It takes away the work and effort needed to be present and replaces it with joy. 

And for a high-value man, those deeper qualities are what makes the difference between another girlfriend, and a woman he looks at for life. 

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10. High-value men value respectful women 

Respect is something that’s truly distorted between the sexes. 

For women respect is a basic minimum standard of being human. 

You would never think of being with a man who didn’t respect you as a person. 

However for men, respect is something that is earned. 

Which means that when a woman shows her respect to a man it means more than just being cordial. 

It’s the emotional equivalent of him saying he truly cares for you. 

And this ties in a lot of the other traits I’ve discussed like empathy and caring. 

When a man feels respected by you, he begins looking deep into your relationship and at the fact that it is growing. 

A woman who treats others with respect also shows that she has that softer effeminate side. 

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11. Seek balance in your life 

High-value men want a woman who can balance her life. 

Where she can balance the duties, energy and time of her work, personal life and relationship with him. 

He wants to see her make time for what’s truly important to her. 

As a man when we see a woman pouring herself into a job she doesn’t like or giving energy to friendships that are 1 sided, it drains us. 

As men we have a natural drive to better the lives of those we care about. 

And by seeing a woman with balance, he can have a deeper sense of peace in the relationship. 

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12. High-value men want empathetic women 

Empathy is another intrinsically feminine trait. 

It’s a trait tied into emotional intelligence and openness. 

And when a man is around an empathetic woman it brings down our guards and defenses. 

High-value men want a woman who can understand his feelings and needs. 

This is important because it shows that the relationship will never be a 1 way street and that disagreements will be able to be overcome and worked through.  

When a woman shows empathy to a man it also touches on those other feminine traits we are looking for. 

Traits like loyalty, caring, compassion and the ability to support us and our relationship. 

13. High-value men have boundaries 

One of the greatest challenges many women first feel when they begin dating a high-value man is that they have serious boundaries and they expect those to be respected. 

High-value men have options. 

They aren’t going to play games or deal with tests or power plays in a relationship. 

They also aren’t going to tolerate having their personal boundaries crossed and often have little problem ending a relationship if that crossing continues. 

These may be boundaries for the kinds of behaviors he has and while a high-value man will never try to control what a woman does. 

But he won’t be with one that doesn’t have that burning desire for him that pushes her to respect his boundaries either. 

With that a high-value man also expects his woman to have serious boundaries for herself and others. 

If he can see she has personal boundaries that wont be crossed he can translate that into the relationship when it comes to things like loyalty. 

Embrace being a high-value woman 

If you really want to find your high-value man, than you need to become the truly high-value woman that he is looking for. 

By embracing your femininity and those things that make you opposite yet complimentary to him you show him those things he is truly looking for in a woman.