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Keep away from her friend zone and stay in her relationship zone.

You are a nice guy who’s kind, respectful, loyal and caring. 

You treat women well and do everything you can to make them happy which makes you the perfect boyfriend material right? 

No.  

Guys go into interactions with women thinking that being nice and polite to win their affection but in reality, that generally backfires. 

And when it does, you’re going to be stuck in the friend zone. 

Why does this happen?  

Why do nice guys get friend zoned?  

And how can you avoid it? 

Here are 13 reasons why nice guys end up friend zoned and what to do about it. 

1. Nice guys are not clear about their intentions 

One of the most common reasons why nice guys get friend zoned is that they are not clear about their intentions from the start.  

They approach women as friends, hoping to build rapport and trust before making a move.  

They think that by being friendly and helpful, they will eventually win the woman’s heart. 

By acting like a friend, you’re telling her that you are not interested in her romantically, or worse, you signal that you’re not confident or assertive enough to go for what you want.  

When I was a young man, I suffered from this. 

I thought that by befriending a woman I would get in the door and instead I got myself friend zoned every time. 

Don’t be afraid to show your attraction and interest in the woman.  

But dating experts say you need to be open and honest with your interest and desire for her. Flirt with her, compliment her, tease her, touch her, and ask her out.  

Don’t wait for the perfect moment or the right signals.  

Create them yourself. 

2. Nice guys lack confidence and women want it 

Confidence is one of the most attractive traits in a man and studies have proven it true.

It shows that you are secure in yourself, know your worth, and can handle any situation.  

A confident man can approach a woman with ease, flirt with her without fear, and lead her with authority.  

A confident man can also stand up for himself, express his opinions, and set boundaries. 

But one of the key symptoms of a nice guy is a lack of confidence and the anxiety that goes with it. 

Women don’t want a pushover, they want a man who can lead them somewhere amazing in life. 

And if you act like you’re the one being led, she’s never going to want you. 

The solution is to work on building your self-confidence and developing your self-esteem.  

You can start this by learning to appreciate yourself and your strengths.  

Start challenging yourself to step out of your comfort zone and face your fears, especially the social ones.  

Related: Here’s how to stop being a nice guy and get her attracted

3. To women the nice guy is too predictable 

When it comes to women predictability is the enemy of attraction.  

A nice guy who is too predictable, quickly becomes boring and uninteresting.  

A lot of this comes in the form of a nice guy making himself to available and responsive to a woman. 

She wants a man with a life of his own and a backbone as well. 

So, what’s the solution? 

Tell her no sometimes. 

Even if you are available, let her know that you are not going to be there at her every whim because you have a life. 

Letting someone use you is like telegraphing every woman around that you are not a man worth attaching themselves too. 

Start trying new things whether it’s taking on new things at work or putting effort into finding something in your area that you haven’t tried. 

You’ll meet some new people, maybe new women, and you’ll have things going on to pique interest in a potential date. 

4. Nice guys are too passive, so they don’t build attraction 

Passivity in a man is a turn-off for women.  

When you are too passive, you show that you lack initiative, ambition, and passion.  

It also gets you friend zoned because it shows that you are weak, too weak to show your basic feelings and interest in her. 

So why would any woman want a man who lacks initiative, ambition, passion and is weak? 

They wouldn’t.  

Those kinds of guys make great friends she can keep sidelined and giving her what she wants while they wait. 

You may feel like it’s a good idea to wait for the right time to show her your feelings but in reality, that is what gets a man friend zoned. 

By acting like a friend instead of a lover, you become a friend. 

The solution is to take charge of the relationship and the situation by letting her know right off the bat that you are interested. 

This gives her the chance to reciprocate and build interest in you as well. 

Related: Here are the 15 high-value qualities she is looking for in a man

5. Nice guys are clingy and that’s turns women off 

Yes, women love attention, but they love it from the men they want it from. 

And by giving her every part of your energy, you are not giving her anything to want. 

She doesn’t need to want you because you have made sure she knows she already has you regardless. 

You need to be an independent man and focus on your own life first and foremost. 

By focusing on yourself you will first, build up a lifestyle women want.  

And second, be withholding enough energy so that she can build up a desire for it. 

When you build yourself up you give yourself the energy she wants. 

And wanting something we can’t have immediately has a natural tendency to make us want it more. 

Related: Men need to cultivate a provider mindset, here’s how

I used to be the ultimate nice guy and it made sure I got friend-zoned by every girl I liked. It’s time to quit that and start being the masculine man she wants. Read No More Mr. Nice Guy men, you’ll thank me.

6. Nice guys are aggregable, put her in her place 

You are too agreeable and that’s another reason why women friend zone them so much. 

Nice guys think they are being kind and not trying to disappoint a woman but in reality, saying no is powerful. 

It sets you up as a man who holds his frame and prioritizes things in his life. 

A woman wants a man she knows will be honest even if it’s something she doesn’t want to hear. 

In fact, women hardly admit it, but when a man truly takes charge and even disagrees with them or shuts them down. 

It makes him more attractive because he has just displayed his true masculinity, dominance and sense of purpose. 

A lot of women will even crap test a man when they are first getting to know each other. 

This is basically to see if he is a chump who’ll bend over for her or is a masculine man that will stand strong. 

The solution to this is to stop caring so much about what she thinks. 

If a woman gets upset or offended at you so what.  

Stand with what you did or believe and show that you are a man who has the strength to stand against her if need be. 

She will absolutely respect you more for it. 

Related: Here are the 15 reasons why women love masculine men so much

7. Nice guys come off as too needy 

Think of it for a second. 

If you’re always ready to jump at a moment’s notice for her, what’s it saying? 

It says to her and everyone else that you are a needy chump who has no life of their own. 

Neediness comes across to women as having low self-worth and confidence. 

And we all know women across the board rate confidence as the single most attractive trait in a man. 

Being self-sufficient shows that you value yourself and your time. 

It shows that you have the confidence to be independent and to work on yourself. 

Never put her on a pedestal or buy her affection.  

Instead value yourself and what you bring as a man. 

Don’t make her your everything, instead show her your everything is a lifestyle she wants to be a part of. 

8. Nice guys are too nice to everyone 

A man being overly nice to everyone is another turn-off for women.  

When you are too nice to everyone, you show that you have no standards, criteria, or filters for the people you associate with.  

You may also tolerate anyone who mistreats you, disrespects you, or takes advantage of you, without confronting or cutting them off.  

You may also help anyone who asks you for a favor, a loan, or a handout, without expecting anything in return. 

Men need to have some standards, criteria, and filters for the people they associate with.  

Choose your friends wisely and carefully.  

Don’t tolerate anyone who mistreats you, disrespects you, or takes advantage of you.  

Confront them or cut them off.  

Give your help to those in need who appreciate and deserve it. 

When a woman sees a man standing for himself and having a strong set of standards for those he brings into his life, it elevates him socially in her eyes. 

Related: Women love confidence, here 15 ways to boost yours

9. You are too serious, have fun 

It shouldn’t be a surprise that women want to have fun. 

Afterall isn’t there an old 80’s hit song from Madonna about that? 

But seriously, being seen as too serious is a major turn off for women. 

They want a man who makes them feel frisky, fun and adventurous. 

And guess what the nice guy comes across as? 

Not fun, frisky or adventurous when Chad is telling her about the fun, he’s having this weekend whether she goes along or not. 

The point is that you can’t be uptight or have a too serious demeaner when around her. 

That’s your time to get her emotions peaked and have fun so she builds attraction. 

To solve this, you need to start focusing on yourself again instead of what others think. 

A woman doesn’t want to be the leader of the relationship dragging her man around and making all the decisions. 

She wants a man who can take the lead and lead her into someplace amazing. 

10. Nice guys are seen as dishonest with their emotions 

When nice guys get friend zoned, it’s because they’ve acted like a friend instead of a man who’s interested in her romantically. 

If you act like a friend, you can’t be mad when she puts you into her friend zone. 

But nice guys so often think if they wait it out and build that relationship it will blossom into something more. 

But the truth is that once you’re in the friend zone you might as well go find another woman to try your luck with, because this door is shut. 

And it can all be changed by having the confidence to come out right from the start and let her know you are interested. 

Related: Here are the 15 most attractive hobbies a man can have

11. Being a humble nice guy gets you friend zoned fast 

Women want a man who is above the rest, ahead of the pack, a leader and going places. 

It’s a biologically driven thing for women to want a man who can hold his own against the world. 

And being a humble nice guy ensures you’re never seen as that strong man. 

I once heard a woman on a podcast say she wants to know her man can snap a neck of a bad guy and that evening cuddle with a baby. 

They are driven from a survival standpoint over hundreds of thousands of years of evolutions and social adaptation to seek out a man who can keep her safe. 

And that means standing out for your strengths. 

They don’t have to be physical, especially in today’s world where intellect and success are so interwoven. 

But she has to see them, and you have to show your strengths to her. 

12. You are too friendly, of course you’re friend-zoned 

Being friendly might seem like the way to get a woman to know that you’re a good guy. 

But in reality, it can be another step into the friend zone. 

Being too friendly signals a lack of sexual interests, attraction, or intention towards her. 

If you treat her like a buddy, you can’t get mad when she makes, you’re her buddy. 

This happens all too often when a nice guy talks to her about mundane things like sports and work instead of your feelings and emotions. 

Nice guys tend to avoid touching women because they want to avoid being a creep or to aggressive sexually. 

But then the sexual energy and attraction never even gets a chance to start building. 

And so, you get licked in the friendzone. 

Instead, be kind, but don’t be a friend.  

Treat her like a lover and build that intimacy between you. 

13. Nice guys’ generosity gets them into the friendzone 

You are too generous when it comes to women. 

But isn’t showing her that I am willing to give to her a way to make her see me as a good match? 

No, it’s a good way to ensure you are friend-zoned and maybe taken advantage of. 

When a man is too generous it signals that he has little value for his own energy and resources. 

When I was a teen, I went through a time thinking gifts and getting a girl everything, she wanted would get her to like me. 

Instead, it got me used over and over. 

If you are a pushover and she knows she can get all the benefits of a boyfriend out of you without having to have you as a boyfriend, why should she? 

She can get your time and attention while chasing the Chad she really wants. 

So either you become the man she wants or stop giving her everything she wants. 

Trying to buy a woman’s affection will never work. 

She either has to have genuine desire for you or not and buying her is a great way to snuff out that burning desire. 

Quit being a nice guy, quit getting friend zoned 

If you want to stop getting locked into the friend zone, you have to stop acting like a friend to women. 

Instead, you have to act like an interested and potential lover. 

You have to have the confidence to show her your interest and to be able to let her know she isn’t your end-all-be-all.