Don’t settle for average, make yourself the kind of women the best of men look for.

Do you want to find a high-quality man who is not only handsome, but also smart, successful, kind, and loyal?  

Do you want to avoid wasting your time and energy on men who are immature, dishonest, or disrespectful?  

Then what you’re looking for is a genuine high-quality man. 

A man who is in control of his life and driving it towards somewhere great and is an amazing man to those he brings into that life. 

Here are 13 ways to attract a high-quality man and get him to fall for you. 

1. Know what you want

The first thing you need to do to attract a high-quality man is to know what you want.  

You need to have a clear idea of what you consider to be “high quality” in a man, and what you are looking for in a relationship.  

You need to know your values and your relationship goals. 

Knowing what you want will help you filter out the men who may be attractive but aren’t a real fit for a life partner.  

Remember a key in finding a high-quality man is staying away from low quality men. 

Next is to know what you want in a husband, not just a boyfriend. 

Think about the things that are important to you in life, such as family, work, beauty, humor, love, or intellect.  

As a woman you can look for men with those traits and actively seek them out. 

One of the things I became aware of at the very start of my political career was that at these prestigious events there were always several young ladies. 

These were almost always very classy, effeminate, good in the greater sense type of women. 

Sometimes daughters of someone attending others were interns or volunteers that had realized they could seek out a good man at these places. 

But the point is that they were actively looking for the men that were going to be the movers and shakers in the world. 

And guess who were the ones being taken up by the most successful and loyal men in that area? 

It wasn’t the women at the local bar. 

2. Learn the value you bring to a relationship 

The second thing you need to do to attract a high-quality man is to know your own value in a relationship.  

Now this is different than having high self-esteem or being confident. 

This requires taking a deep dive into who you are as a woman and looking at the kinds of things you bring into a relationship good and bad. 

You need to understand that those positive effeminate traits are a value to men.  

The traits I’ve written about like being nurturing, family oriented, feminine are what men are looking for when they ask what a woman brings. 

Knowing your value and values will also help to attract those men who will value you.  

It will also help you set healthy boundaries and standards for yourself and your relationship. 

Related: Communication is key in a relationship, here’s how to get your man to open up.

3. High-quality men want a woman who is improving herself 

The third thing you need to do to attract a high-quality man is to always be looking to improve yourself as a woman.  

You need to be constantly learning, growing, and evolving as a woman.  

You need to be curious, open-minded and honest with yourself. 

The first part of this is looking at the kinds of qualities men want in their wives and learning and leaning into those qualities that you possess. 

Another part of this is taking a good hard look at your own negative qualities. 

By doing that you can first recognize them because we all have some, and then you can work on getting over correcting them. 

4. Forget about being strong and independent 

Hear me out, I know you’ve been told your whole life that you must be a strong and independent woman but there’s a few things wrong with that when it comes to relationships. 

First, those are masculine qualities and masculine, high-quality men don’t want a masculine woman. 

They want a woman who is at home, or strong, in herself as a woman and in her relationship with her man.  

Next is that relationships are by their very nature a thing of dependence.  

Relationships require each party to be able to be dependent and to be dependable to the other for it to succeed.  

Now am I saying you should be reliant on your man for everything, no. 

You should be a grown-up woman who acts and behaves like a mature adult. 

But having that “strong and independent” mindset is a very unattractive thing to high-quality men who have the option of finding soft effeminate women. 

My wife is college educated and even wrestled in China on the US World team as the very first group of females allowed to do so.

She is the definition of strong and independent, but in our relationship she is soft, caring, nurturing and dependent.

She gives herself into our relationship and depends on me to give into it as well and that builds the relationship into a single cohesive family.

5. High-quality men love family-oriented women 

High-quality men are attracted to feminine qualities in women. 

One of the most effeminate qualities is to be family oriented. 

This doesn’t mean wanting tons of kids or even being close to your actual family. 

Instead, it means that feminine and nurturing sense of caring for those who are close to your heart. 

It’s genuine caring for those you care about. 

It’s the energy a woman puts towards her relationships with her loved ones. 

Men can look at this and see a woman’s caring nature and that is very attractive to them because it allows him to envision what kind of wife and mother she would be. 

It gives him a way of seen firsthand that she is a woman of love and loyalty. 

Related: Here are feminine qualities every man looks for in a wife.

6. High-quality men love feminine women 

Masculinity and femininity are opposite yet complimentary energies. 

Men need that softness and gentle caring of the feminine and women need that strength and protectionism that is masculinity. 

And high-quality men tend to be very much at home in their masculine energy. 

And they are very attracted to femininity. 

Everything about femininity we find attractive, from the graceful way her body moves to the peace that comes from feeling her heart.  

Femininity is like a type of magnetism that pulls on the eyes, mind and heart of a masculine and high-quality man. 

Effeminate clothes that flatter your figure, brighter colors, hair styles, accessories, all of these things can be used to accentuate your natural femininity and attractiveness. 

The next thing is how you interact with others. 

When a man sees you interacting with grace, kindness and gentleness it triggers those primal attraction cues in him. 

Femininity means even more than your beauty because that’s something that helps to build a relationship.

7. When you’re around him be fun and adventurous 

You need to show him that you are not boring or predictable, but rather spontaneous and exciting.  

Now this doesn’t mean always having some crazy activity or vacation lined up. 

But you need to be able to make him laugh, surprise him, and keep him on his toes a bit. 

It’s having a life and lifestyle that consists of actually doing things and having interests that you pursue. 

Being fun and adventurous will help you attract men who are fun and adventurous as well. It will also help you avoid men who are dull or rigid.  

It will also help you enjoy life and have a more fun relationship with him. 

To be fun and adventurous in a relationship, start by being playful, humorous, and creative in your interactions with him.  

Then, be open-minded, curious, and willing to try new things with him.  

Whether it’s traveling, sports, hobbies, or cuisine, you should let him know you’re ready for an adventure with him. 

8. High-quality men love social and charming women 

When you meet a high-quality man, you need to show him that you are not antisocial or awkward, but rather outgoing and interesting.  

You need to be able to mingle with his friends, family, and colleagues, and make a good impression on them. 

We aren’t looking for you to become their new BFF or an immediate part of our inner circle, but we want a woman who is genuinely kind and interested in others. 

Being social and charming will help you attract high-quality men who are social and charming as well.  

A woman who is smiling and having a good time makes it easier for men to take down their guard and have a good time. 

When I am out with my wife and she is having a good time, it is easier for me to as well.

It will also help you expand your network and opportunities. 

To be social and charming, just start by being friendly, polite, and engaging with everyone you meet.  

And don’t forget to smile, laugh, and have fun. 

9. You must be loyal and faithful 

The ninth thing you need to do to attract a high-quality man is to be loyal and faithful.  

This is an absolute non-negotiable for high-quality men. 

Part of being a high-quality man is giving themselves to their loved ones, and they demand that same level of energy and care going into a relationship. 

You need to show him that you are devoted and trustworthy.  

You need to be loyal to him as a person, as a partner, and as a friend, and faithful to him as a lover. 

Trust and security are 2 foundational building blocks of relationships and without them, he can’t move any further with you. 

To be loyal and faithful, start by being honest, transparent, and consistent with him.  

Then, be supportive, caring, and attentive to him.  

And don’t ever lie to him. 

Because even if he is none the wiser now, he will eventually catch you in a lie and once his trust is broken for a high-quality man, it is very hard to regain. 

10. High-quality men want respect and appreciation 

The tenth thing you need to do to attract a high-quality man is to be respectful and appreciative.  

You need to show him that you are polite and grateful.  

You need to be respectful of his time, space, and privacy, and appreciative of his generosity, kindness, and attention. 

To become a high-quality man of any kind takes tremendous amounts of time, energy and effort. 

Men don’t turn 18 with their relationship attraction or value, it must be built. 

And so a man who has built up himself into being a high-quality man knows exactly the kind of work it has taken and the options that work has given him. 

He will respect himself and any woman he brings into his life. 

But he will also have a deep need for respect as well. 

To men respect is like relationship fuel, it fills up our hearts when our woman shows us that she respects us as a man. 

When my wife shows her appreciation or her respect of me in some way, it always makes me feel energized.

It makes me feel refueled with relationship anergy and want to be even better for her and give more into her and the relationship.

To be respectful and appreciative, start by being courteous, considerate, and attentive to him and his needs.  

And don’t forget to express your appreciation with words, gestures, or gifts from time to time. 

11. Be yourself and stay genuine 

One of the most important things in attracting a high-quality man that many women forget about is to be yourself and be genuine.  

The last thing a high-quality man wants is a woman who seems like she could be fake or pretentious. 

We want you to be authentic and real.  

You need to be true to yourself, your values, your passions, and your dreams, and not try to be someone else or something else for him. 

This will help in 2 different ways.  

First, you’ll attract men who are themselves genuine, and second, it will help you avoid deceptive men who aren’t looking for a real relationship. 

It will also help you connect with him on a deeper level. 

Be honest, transparent, and consistent with him.  

If something bothers you, let him know.  

If there’s something you are looking for from him, let him know. 

12. A high-quality man wants a positive and optimistic woman 

You need to show your high-quality man that you are positive, upbeat and hopeful.  

Having a positive attitude towards life, yourself, and others, and an optimistic outlook for the future ties directly into how he sees a relationship with you. 

He can see being with you will be an uplifting experience where you look forward to an amazing future. 

It will also help you inspire him and motivate him to keep his ambition and keep achieving his goals. 

To be positive and optimistic, start by being grateful, happy, and content with what you have.  

Being grateful allows you to embrace the positive in your life and get over the negatives that happen. 

It will also make you a more attractive person in general because we all want to feel good and by being positive, you will make others feel good when they’re around you. 

13. Be flexible and adaptable 

Part of being in a real relationship is being flexible and adaptable. 

A high-quality man doesn’t want to deal with a woman who can’t adapt to the demands or changing schedules that he has. 

He needs a woman who can take on his new challenges with a smile knowing that they will bring them both to a better place. 

Being adaptable also helps make a relationship more stable because instead of taking each little hiccup as an existential threat. 

You can step back and look more objectively at the issue and do what is truly best for both of you. 

You need to be able to adjust your plans, routines, or rules according to the situation or the feedback.  

To do this, try to embrace change as an opportunity for growth just as your high-quality man has done in his life. 

Start by trying to be open to new ideas, perspectives, or experiences.  

Then, learn to compromise, negotiate, or cooperate with him and others.  

Also, learn from your mistakes. 

They aren’t the end of the world, they are a chance for you to grow from your experiences and strive for improvement. 

Be a high-quality woman, get the high-quality man 

Attracting a high-quality man is not impossible if you know what he is looking for in a woman.  

By following these 13 ways, you can increase your chances of catching his eye and winning his heart. 

Just remember that just attracting a high-quality man is not enough. 

You also have to keep him interested, satisfied, and putting energy into your relationship.  

To do that, you have to be more than just a pretty face. 

You have to be a great partner who can complement him, support him, inspire, love, and respect him. 

In other words, if you want the best version of a man, you have to be the best version of yourself.  

Because ultimately, that’s what he wants.  

And that’s what you deserve.