Your beauty only gets you an initial hello, here’s how to make him your man.

Ladies, your beauty is not the most important factor in finding a good man, a high-value man, or the kind of man you want to marry. 

Your beauty gets you an initial look and hello, and that’s it. 

Here’s 15 reasons why you shouldn’t be too worried about trying to become a perfect 10 and why even if you are, it doesn’t matter when it comes to your future husband. 

1. Beauty is subjective and varies across cultures and time periods.  

Being beautiful is subjective. 

Not everyone is going to be attracted to you physically. 

What’s more is that many of those men who are attracted to you physically are only attracted to you physically. 

Just because they want to be intimate with you doesn’t mean they want to have a relationship with you. 

What makes the difference is everything that makes you, you. 

It’s the traits and qualities you have as a woman that makes you attractive as a partner and as a wife. 

2. Beauty fades with age, but other qualities last longer.  

It shouldn’t be a surprise to hear that you are not always going to be young and beautiful.  

We grow older, it’s a part of life. 

And part of that is watching our physical beauty fade. 

But what does stay, is the type of woman you are.  

Your personality and character is what is going to draw him in for life. 

If men cared only about beauty they would be leaving their wives for the next youngest thing to say hello, but we don’t see that. 

Because having a good woman means so much more than finding a pretty one.

More than anything else, men want a woman who embraces her femininity because that is a woman who will be high-quality for life regardless of how she looks. 

3. Beauty does not guarantee happiness or success.  

It’s easy for us to look at social media and equate being beautiful to having a happy life.  

Afterall, don’t all these gorgeous influencers have the best lives? 

No, how many of them are happily married and building loving families? 

The truth is that beauty means nothing when it comes to being happy or successful in a relationship. 

That comes from being able to look at ourselves and our partner and put down some of our own wants, for our relationship’s needs. 

It comes from leaning into and embracing your feminine qualities that compliment your man’s masculine. 

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4. Beauty is not enough to maintain a relationship.  

Being hot won’t keep a man’s attention, let alone earn his love and devotion. 

There are billions of attractive women in the world and just being cute isn’t all that special. 

Especially to a high-quality kind of man who has romantic options. 

What maintains a relationship is all the things aside from your beauty that you bring into it. 

It’s the energy you give to your man. 

It’s your devotion and support. 

Your man wants your heart and when he has it, that’s when he starts looking at building a life with you. 

5. Beauty can be enhanced or diminished by other factors.  

Your physical appearance is not fixed or static.  

It can be influenced by many factors such as your health, mood, clothing, makeup, hairstyle, even lighting and where you’re at.  

What’s more, your beauty can be enhanced or diminished by how you behave, speak, and treat others.  

A woman who is kind has a beautiful energy about her while a rude or mean but good-looking woman has an aura of negativity which is unattractive.

And this is why your beauty isn’t a factor past saying hello.

Everything that us men are going to look at when it comes to wanting a relationship with you is going to come from within.

We know physical beauty can often be a mask for character flaws but a woman who has a beautiful personality is like a fountain of feminine energy to us. 

6. Beauty is not a reflection of your character or personality.  

Your physical appearance does not tell anything about your character or personality.  

You can be beautiful and still be mean, selfish, or dishonest and men understand this.  

Likewise, you can be less attractive and still be kind, generous, honest, or confident.  

Your character and personality are what defines who you are and are more important than your beauty in defining who you are and how you relate to others. 

7. Beauty is not a skill or an achievement.  

Your physical appearance is largely determined by your genes and luck.  

Yes, there are things you are in control of, like staying fit and healthy. 

But you do not have much control over how you look or how others perceive you.  

Therefore, beauty is not something that drives relationship attraction like personality traits. 

People will either think you look good or not and there’s nothing you can really do about it. 

But you absolutely can change how people perceive you as a person by how you behave and interact with them. 

One skill that is truly important in a relationship however is communication and by learning how you and your partner each communicate love, you can build a stronger foundation for your life together.

8. Beauty can distract you from your true goals and passions.  

If you focus too much on your appearance, you may neglect other aspects of your life that are more important and fulfilling.  

Now we have all heard the stereotype of the dumb blonde or the hot but clueless cheerleader. 

The sad truth is that there is some truth in the fact that when you are attractive you may have people much more willing to let slip things that help us grow. 

You may spend too much time and money on enhancing your beauty instead of pursuing your real goals and passions.  

This leads us to potentially missing out on opportunities to learn new things, meet new people, and explore new experiences. 

These are the kinds of things that are going to make you into the kind of woman he is looking for. 

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9. Beauty can make you dependent on others’ opinions and validation.  

If you base your self-esteem on your appearance, you will eventually become dependent on others’ opinions and validation.  

This is because by putting your own esteem on your appearance you are tying your self-esteem to other people’s judgement of you. 

How many people do you know who constantly seek compliments, approval, and attention from others to feel good about themselves?  

It can be easy to compare yourself to others and feel insecure or inadequate if you do not measure up to their standards of beauty. 

And this can lead to a cycle in which you’re never going to be ‘good enough’ because there is always a more perfect ideal out there. 

Instead try to be satisfied with who you are and know men look for what a woman’s character traits are for whether they want to build a relationship. 

10. Beauty can make you vulnerable to manipulation and exploitation.  

If you value your appearance too much, you may become vulnerable to manipulation and exploitation by others who want to take advantage of you.  

You may fall for people who only care about your looks and not your feelings or well-being.  

You may also be targeted by people who want to use you for their own gain or pleasure. 

This happens a lot with men dating beautiful women. 

She may have all the attention she could want but many of the men pursuing her are only doing it to conquer her sexually. 

As a man I get to see this because men, especially young men, talk and try to brag and sound cool.  

They talk openly about chasing women simply because of sex with no regards for a relationship. 

But they don’t tell the women that.  

They tell them what gets them into her pants. 

11. Beauty can limit your options and choices in life.  

If you believe that beauty is the most important factor in finding a husband, you may limit your options and choices in life.  

You may settle for someone who is attractive but not compatible with you in other ways.  

I have seen this in the real world.  

I knew a man who went for a girl and even married her very quickly because he thought she was so hot. 

He later found out she was a former stripper and not the kind of personality he wanted around his kids. 

It was a 2-year relationship that ended with a divorce simply because they never looked past each other’s looks. 

12. Beauty can create unrealistic expectations 

Think of how dating has gotten with the rise of apps like Tinder. 

A woman will have almost unlimited matches of men wanting a chance with her. 

And because of that, we see something on the apps that psychology has termed analysis paralysis. 

By having so many options we can literally make ourselves unable to even begin the process of selecting or getting to know a man. 

Instead, a woman stuck in this situation may match or even start to get to know someone, but the moment a single flaw or ick happens, she bails for the next best option. 

This is because of the unrealistic expectations having so many options make in us. 

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13. Beauty can cause jealousy and resentment among others.  

How many times has a beautiful woman or girl walked by your friend group only to have one of them say something like “Yea she’s hot but she’s a…” 

That’s pure jealousy. 

And the sad truth is that if you are very beautiful, you may attract jealousy and resentment from others who feel threatened or inferior to you.  

You may face hostility, gossip, or sabotage from people who want to bring you down or hurt you.  

It becomes the typical ‘mean girls’ kind of thing where you are pushed out before someone gets to know who you truly are. 

14. Beauty can make you complacent and lazy.  

I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all heard of pretty privilege. 

The truth is that it does exist. 

People, especially men, will go out of their way to help a pretty woman. 

And in the right circumstance, this can lead to her relying on her appearance to get what she wants in life. 

And what that is really, is becoming complacent and lazy.  

You may not work hard to develop your skills, talents, or abilities.  

You may not challenge yourself to grow or improve as a person.  

Which means you may also miss out on the satisfaction and joy of achieving something through your own effort and merit. 

15. Beauty is not the only or the best way to express yourself as a woman.  

Your appearance is only one aspect of your identity and expression.  

It is not the only or the best way to express yourself especially when looking for a good man.  

You have many other ways to show who you are and what you stand for, such as your words, actions, beliefs, values, hobbies, interests, and passions.  

A man wants to see those. 

He wants to see the feminine qualities that are inside you. 

Men want a soft effeminate spirit much more than a hot body because that spirit will make a good life and that body will eventually fade. 

The things inside your heart are more meaningful and authentic than your beauty will ever be. 

You’re beautiful, make sure it comes as much from the inside as the outside 

There you have it ladies. 

From the mouth of a man, beauty is not the most important factor in finding a husband.  

In fact, it can be a hindrance or a distraction from finding a true and lasting love.  

Instead of focusing on your appearance, focus on your inner qualities and what makes you unique and special.  

Focus on leaning into your femininity and softness and loyalty and respect. 

You will be happier and more attractive to the right person who will love you for who you are and not how you look.