7 things that show him you’re The One starting today 

How do you know if you are the one for him? How can you make him see that you are the perfect partner for him?  

These are questions that many women ask themselves, especially when they are in a serious relationship and want to take it to the next level.  

While there is no definitive answer to these questions, there are some signs that can indicate that you are on the right track.

In this article, I’m going to break it down into seven things that show him you’re The One, based on scientific research and expert advice. These are not tricks or manipulations, but genuine ways of being yourself and enhancing your relationship. 

1. You make him feel good about himself. 

One of the most important factors in relationship satisfaction is how partners make each other feel.

According to a massive 2020 study, one of the strongest predictors of relationship satisfaction is how much partners admire each other and boost each other’s self-esteem.  

When you make him feel good about himself, you show him that you appreciate his qualities, talents, and achievements. You also show him that you support his goals and dreams, and that you are his biggest fan. This makes him feel confident, happy, and loved. 

And let’s think about it for a moment, what man wouldn’t want to be with a woman who uplifts him and pushes him to be a better version of himself who meets all of his goals and dreams? 

2. You don’t agree on everything. 

Contrary to popular belief, being compatible does not mean having the same opinions, preferences, or hobbies. In fact, having some differences can be beneficial for your relationship, as long as you respect and accept them.  

According to another study from 2020, one of the signs that you’re The One for him is that you don’t agree on everything.  

This shows him that you have your own personality, perspective, and values. It also shows him that you can handle conflict constructively, and that you are willing to compromise and learn from each other. Having some disagreements can also keep your relationship interesting and stimulating. 

3. You show him your empathy. 

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another person and it’s essential for building trust, respect and love in a relationship.  

When you practice empathy, you show him that you care about his emotions, thoughts, and experiences. You also show him that you can listen without judging, offer comfort without pitying, and give advice without imposing.

A 2018 study found that one of the neuro-chemical components of relationship satisfaction is practicing empathy.

When you practice empathy, you activate the brain regions associated with bonding, reward, and pleasure. 

4. You control your feelings and stress. 

Another neuro-chemical component of relationship satisfaction is controlling your feelings and stress.  

This means that you are able to regulate your emotions, cope with challenges, and manage your expectations in a healthy way. When you control your feelings and stress, you show him that you are mature, resilient, and adaptable.

You also show him that you can handle difficult situations without overreacting, blaming, or withdrawing.  

This makes him feel safe, secure, and calm with you. In other words, you ‘bring him peace’ as is so popular a phrase in the manosphere community.

But it’s a real feeling that men get from the fact that their woman is a source of peace and not drama. A relationship is supposed to be about the 2 of you lifting each other up to build 1 life that’s better together. 

5. You maintain positive views about your partner. 

The way you think about your partner can have a huge impact on your relationship satisfaction.  

According to cognitive-behavioral theory, our thoughts influence our feelings and behaviors. So, if you have positive thoughts about your partner, you will feel more affectionate and act more lovingly towards him.  

On the other hand, if you have negative thoughts about your partner, you will feel more resentful and act more hostilely towards him.  

When you maintain positive views about your partner, you show him that you focus on his strengths rather than his weaknesses. You also show him that you give him the benefit of the doubt rather than jumping to conclusions. This makes him feel respected, appreciated, and valued. 

And if there is one thing above all else that men yearn for from their woman, it’s to be respected.

Ladies, this is because among men respect has to be earned and when you show him you respect him you show him that he has truly lived up to being the kind of man he feels you deserve. 

6. You relax and have fun together. 

Having fun together is another sign that you’re The One for him. And it’s because having fun together means that you enjoy each other’s company, share common interests, and laugh often.  

Plenty of studies have shown couples who have fun together report higher levels of relationship satisfaction.

When you have fun together, you show him that you are compatible, adventurous, and spontaneous. And that tells him that you are the kind of woman who can keep the spark alive in your relationship. 

So, find things you both like, or better yet, go have some new experiences in your area and enjoy those together.

Psychologists refer to these kinds of experiences as first firsts and they really build the foundation of a healthy and lifelong relationship. 

7. You agree on having or not having children. 

One of the most important decisions that couples face is whether to have children. This decision can affect many aspects of your relationship, such as your lifestyle, finances, values, and future.  

I want to be dead serious for a moment, I personally know an elderly couple who just divorced because he claimed to be infertile their entire marriage when he wasn’t, so he didn’t have to have any kids, and all she wanted was to be a mommy…

Having children or not is something you have to discuss and agree on or it’s a nightmare for both of you waiting to happen. 

One of the biggest moderators of relationship satisfaction is whether partners agree on children and research has shown this to be true. When you agree on children, you show him that you have similar goals and visions for your relationship. You also show him that you are ready to commit to each other and to a potential family. 

Show him you are the woman he wants to build a life with and show him you’re The One 

These are just some of the things you can do to show him you’re The One for him. While each man’s dream woman may be different, there are a lot of basic common traits we look for and once we find a woman who meets those ideas of what we think will make a good wife, we usually don’t wait long to try and lock her down. 

The key is to be yourself, communicate openly, and love sincerely. If you do that, you will not only show him that you’re The One for him, but also that he’s The One for you. 

David N. Brace

David N. Brace is a relationship expert that lives what he preaches having built a 20-year happy marriage. Relationships take work and effort but if we are willing to do so and to keep growing as individuals, we can build something amazing that lasts a lifetime.

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